i also live in a world where almost nobody knows what it’s like to be horrifically violated and permanently damaged, and i’ve know plenty of people who will actively deny that it ever even happens at all. For those who have spent a significant amount of their life’s work just in carrying the invisible trauma of their past, this is the worst form of gaslighting. It’s like telling a poor person “why don’t you just get a Prius and drive for Uber?” or to someone with chronic arthritis to “just get out and exercise”.

Your uncle sounds like someone i would not want to know. Thanx for sharing this.

….. oh and congratulations. get better :-)